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Well, Well, Wellllll! I’m finally back from my little journey and I must say I am happy to be back but super blessed to have had a chance to take this life-changing trip! Typically my blog is very basic, I start with an intro than my gym time, about how I ate and then I usually wrap up with something inspirational or motivating. I’m not sure how this will go but I have a feeling that it may change the whole scope of this post as well as future blog posts. The reason I say that is because this past 10 days I have truly been on a fantastic journey that I named the Get Back Tour pt 1. This tour took me on a road trip across the country to spend time and reestablish the strong bond that my children and I have. It also allowed me to get back to being with my mother who is by far one of the most amazing people in the world! So here goes nothing!

I’ll try not to get too personal but let’s just say that this trip was very emotional. I knew it would be because with my kids living on one coast and me on the other it is very difficult sometimes to keep our bond tight. It’s one thing to talk or text but the one thing kids need from their father is time! The time thing is so important because it shapes their young minds and expectations down the road. Time spent with dad is so very vital and if it is not applied properly than disaster can happen! Fortunate for me my youngest son Marcus is a damn gangster and he was so very instrumental in keeping the lines of communication open! Without him, I honestly don’t know how I would have ever been able to stay aware of every move and action on a daily bases. He is an amazing young man that will always be my superman because if anyone can handle every storm and come out the champion it’s Marcus! He was and is the glue that holds this weird and often disconnected family together for me. He is one of those kids that don’t talk often but when they do it’s usually some profound stuff! I have 6 kids in all, 4 that are my biological kids and the two that I have the honor to have thru my fiance but that’s another story for another time!

When I divorced my ex-wife I moved from Seattle to Owensboro, ky and started to put my life back together, A move that was supposed to be temporary has morphed to 8 years of residency in the Commonwealth. My oldest son Latrell still lives in Seattle while the rest of the kids moved to Anaheim, California. Their mother got her dream job of working at Disneyland so off they went. During my years in Kentucky, I didn’t get to see the kids as often as I would have liked and that started opening up a gap that still rests smack in the middle of my kids and I relationship! That gap became a boulder as the distance represented more than just miles apart but pain, anguish, and anger that started to ruin what has always been a close bond between my kids and me. I called and I visited but I was far from a father I was miserable with myself and while trying to figure myself out I wasn’t the father I was from the time they all were born till the night I moved. I went from changing all my kids first diapers and being their only source of well being to being a distant and absent sperm donor! I have always loved and cared very deeply for my kids but I was selfish in every sense of the word because my feeling became more important than their need for a father. The results of that painful truth only proved to hurt me millions of times more than it hurt them. Even though it was more devastating to them then I would only recently come to imagine.


I could go into the relationship I had with my old man and the things that I felt like I endured and certainly, some of it was pretty messed up. The truth is it would not excuse nor rightfully represent the cause and effects of my decision to leave. The truth is when I left my Ex in a way I left my kids and while I was trying to stop being miserable and disappointed with my life and do something about it I left my kids emotionally and physically in that attempt. My life hasn’t been perfect and I’ve been through a few things but it’s nobody’s fault but mine, I made the decisions I made. I made a choice and when I made it I didn’t do the most important thing a father should always do: Put your kids needs first! It wasn’t their fault I was miserable and I made the wrong choice in my marriage and it wasn’t their fault that I was miserable and unhappy. The pursuit of happiness does not exclude anyone from their responsibilities as a parent, no one! I made a decision to be happy because happiness is a decision but I went about it the wrong way and I paid the price. I lost the most precise thing that God has given any of us and that’s the precious gift of time at the moment! I will never get those years back and neither will my wonderful and amazing kids! That’s on me no matter what my reasons or how many attempts I made to stay close! Drifting isn’t an option for parenting and I was about to crash!


The get back, let’s just say that nothing in life is easy but when you have people around you who make you better and hold you to a higher standard you start to know better and when you know better then you should do better! My children have given me the one thing that everyone in this world needs and that’s a second chance! Not a chance to get back what I lost, it’s bigger than that, they gave me a chance to realize that their love is unconditional! It won’t fade and it lasts forever and ever! That type of love is so very rare but so very powerful because when something won’t break no matter it forces you to reexamine yourself and what’s really important in life. My unconditional love was broken not done away with and when it woke up it realized the error of its ways! My love started to manifest itself in the form of being a better man, a better father, and a better human being! Now, I am Change! I changed the way I see myself, I changed the way I represent myself and most important I changed the way I showed love to my family! I am nowhere near perfect but I know god and I believe that his work and his will are perfect and by his grace, I was given this GET BACK!

Back to fatherhood

Back to responsibility

Back to being of service in my kids lives the proper way and not just the monetary way

Back to unconditional love

Back to life, because my life truly means little to nothing without my family and friends

I know better and when you know better you should do better!

Now that I know better watch me do better!


Latrell 22


Nate 21


Destini 16, Big Marcus 18, Yours truly acting foolish at 44.

I had an amazing time on this trip but it’s only the beginning because my oldest wasn’t apart of this round but he is the first stop in a few months when I head back up to the Northwest and get back to our unconditional love! I am truly blessed to be able to have it all, a great woman, great parents and amazing children who motivate me more than anything on this planet! We got the band back together and this time we will never ever stop touring! This is a new day and I’m thankful for every sunrise!


So we kicked it hard on this Get Back Tour! I started off hanging out with mom and dad as they settle into retirement and I ended with fun in the sun with my young ones! How real is that?!!! I’m lucky and I’m blessed and I will never take another moment of time for granted again as long as I live. my kids have shown me the way and now I am humbled by their gift. The gift of access to their lives because no one could blame them for excluding me but they have shown the opposite and that trumps everything else! Don’t get me wrong I have always loved my kids and taken care of their needs and made my location known to them but that was half ass, not good enough. I don’t want to be a good father I want to be the best damn father to ever walk this earth’s surface! It’s what my children deserve and it’s what my Grandmother would have expected of me! Rest easy up there momma your grandson got his mind right and he misses you more and more every damn day!


Posted by on April 29, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Surprised Me!



Happy Wednesday everyone! I just got back from the gym and it’s like 2 a.m. in the morning! I have been sleeping amazingly lately and I was doing my same routine tonight but I just couldn’t fall off. Since I was up anyway and the damn gym is right up the street I just went in and did a cardio session. I’m really glad I did because we didn’t get to swim last night because the family surprised a brutha with early birthday gifts. y birthday isn’t till Sunday, March 4th but they knew I would not be thinking I would get presents today so they gave me my stuff early!  They hooked me up and I’m truly blessed to have the type of support system I have around me! They got me all type of stuff for my healthy lifestyle and I’m hella happy! The loot included a wok and a cast iron skillet, some bomb knives and a set of silver measuring cups! The most amazing thing they got me was the diamond cross necklace with my favorite black chain! The whole night was really cool and they even asked if I wanted a cake on my birthday because they know how hard I’ve been working to stay in ketosis, I told them hell yea I want cake but I’ll just have 1 meal on Sunday and then fast afterward! What a great family I am truly blessed!




So today after I get some damn sleep I’ll be doing chest and biceps again. Hopefully tonight we will go swimming so I can work my legs a little more but if not I’ll still have 2 workouts in the books anyway. Of course, the gym was super empty this morning the only people working out was the front desk guy and his friend so I had the run of the place. The cardio was fun and soothing and they must have had the heat up high because I have never felt it so hot and humid in there. It’s all good because I worked up a good sweat and that’s the point right? My music while doing cardio was a rapper that goes by J.cole and he is really talented and his lyrics will make you move for sure. The workout wrapped up with a little Aretha Franklin, I mean has there ever been a better voice in the history of music? She’s a legend for a reason I guess but she brought me on home like a great woman is suppose




Enjoy your hump day and remember that you are worthy of praise! Make a big deal about yourself to yourself today. Look in the mirror and let yourself know how much you appreciate the person you are, there’s no other person walking the earth’s surface like you! You’re unique and amazing and a masterpiece and you just need to remind yourself of that every day. I love and respect you all for everything you bring to the world and I wish you a fantastic day!


Posted by on February 28, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Simple But Hard

Hello everyone and welcome to Tuesday! This week Tuesday is basically Monday this week because of the holiday so here we go! I hope you all had a nice cup of whatever gets you going this morning and ready to get this fantastic day underway! For those of you who may have done it too big this weekend I hope your hangover isn’t too bad and if it is I hope it was worth it homies, you deserve it!




So yesterday I did my regular lift which was chest and triceps. My movement around the gym is getting to be more of a rhythmic dance of sorts now. Even if someone is using something I need I just move on to something else till it opens up. I think I’ll call this my gym Anyway, my gym flow was on point yesterday in the gym. I’ve noticed increased volume at the gym at my steady time so I think that’s a good thing! It’s cool because people start getting familiar with each other and you almost start looking for one another. Anyway, last night my fiance’ wasn’t feeling too well because of her shark week as yall call it! I’m not even gonna get into it but I say this because we didn’t go swimming. All was not lost because I got my ass up this morning at 3:30 and got my cardio in! Funny thing is I could probably do that cardio, my afternoon lift and still swim if I was feeling up to it! I mean my lift is only a half hour as well as my cardio, swimming is like 35 minutes so why not? It wouldn’t be an everyday thing but every now and again if I’m needing a little extra push!



On the nutritional front, I had a good macro day yesterday! I started off breaking my fast with a little coffee and a bowl of ground beef and butter. Later I had a green smoothie with avocado but I held back on the MCT oil and chia seeds because I wanted to reduce a little of my fat intake. I also had a few bratwurst with no bun and they were delicious! No bulletproof coffee yesterday but I’ll be having some this morning before I hit the gym! Just trying to mix it up and have a little variety ya know? As funny as this sounds I need to eat more protein! Now I know this is laughable because I’m a meat-loving fool but for some reason, I have been unable to hit my protein goal lately. So I figured I would drop my fat intake down and add a little more protein from meat and spinach. You all know I’ll let you know how it goes!




Lately, we have had a lot of hot-button topics debated in our great country of late. Honestly, I don’t want to get into any particular one today. All I would like to say is that its o.k for us to disagree, it’s what makes a democracy so damn amazing. Let’s just remember that no matter what we are all human beings and all worthy of respect as well as showing others respect. By making a point we have to tear someone down or make them feel inadequate just because we have different viewpoints. If we start with a baseline that we love and respect each other than we can work thru anything. No matter how you feel about things that may be happening at the present time please remember we are all somebody’s son or daughter and we all deserve a level of dignity and respect no matter what! Love each other, it’s really the most simplistic, most difficult and most amazingly powerful thing to do and its completely and totally worth it!

Have an amazing week and go get all that you want out of life and help others get what they want too, there’s plenty to go around homies!


Posted by on February 20, 2018 in Uncategorized


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I Am Change!!!



Am I’m back Homies! Today is Saturday and I feel more like my old self again today. The more and more I turn to it the more and more I realize that going to the gym just makes my body feel better. God has been so good to me my whole life and when I decided to get serious about my weight loss he has been my rock as usual! Today I feel refreshed and brand new and just all around better! Did I mention hungry? Lol. Don’t worry, I get to break my fast as soon as I’m done writing this so it may be a short one today! Haha.


My workouts have had to change because of scheduling for other things but I managed to get both workouts in yesterday! The extra reps I’m doing with my chest and triceps are still challenging but in a good way! The gym was really nice and pleasant yesterday and I’m glad I can stop shopping for the best time because I’ve found my spot! I don’t know about you guys but my music is so important when I workout and my playlist has carried me when I didn’t feel like doing that last set! Recently I have been downloading celebrates playlist from iTunes and most of them have great taste so it’s been helpful! We rounded out the night by doing a nice intense 30-minute cardio session in the water! The water is fantastic but it really kicks your butt because when you get out your legs really start throbbing with all the work! From running back and forth to kickboxing moves and all of the abdominal work we got a fantastic workout! The best part by far was the sauna afterward! I really believe it should be required for all adults over 25 to get into a sauna at least 3 times a week! O.k. I’m joking but it is so very soothing and relaxing and your pores feel so damn amazing when you get out in the night air. If your gym has a sauna I highly recommend trying it out it’s a game changer for real!

On the nutrition side, I think the struggle to find a healthy eating balance is still there but at least I’m thinking about what I’m doing before I do it! For lunch, I went back to the oversized chicken salad with my homemade french dressing and some extra meat on the side. For dinner, I made crack slaw with keto pudding for dessert and plenty of water. The only snacks I had were sunflower seeds and the top of Jacobs pizza he Honestly, I felt really good yesterday and I think that’s what helped me wake up feeling rejuvenated today.



I think what was happening wrong was in my fasting regiment. Once I started hitting the gym I thought I could fast just the same as I was before but I was mistaken. I have taken away the 24 hours of fasting twice a week and just replaced it with the daily 16:8 fasting. This way no matter what I don’t get so hungry in between working out and when it’s time to break my fast. See, I love working out in a fasted state but it’s not possible for me to be in a fasted state for both workouts because they are at different times of the day. What I have decided to do is eat my last meal about 2 hours before we go for water workouts so I’m not so damn hungry when we are done! I think that will help things a lot. I know it seems that I play with it too much but if you’re going to make something a lifestyle you have to change it up to fit what you are doing at the time! The key is to stay consistent and not give up because it’s difficult, it’s supposed to be difficult until it becomes a habit! I just keep telling myself that I’ll do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to get this right for me!




Lastly, I want to say thank you to all of you who have been so caring and supportive! It means so much to know that people care and are willing to help. The journey is so much easier with friends who share your up’s and downs and all of that! I wouldn’t be able to do this without all of the love and support from you all! One last thing, I want to say very special thank you to my beautiful mother who is the only person to ever walk this earth that I ever wanted to impress. She has been very supportive and just a little encouragement from her is like mental Steroids because what she thinks about me matters! I love you mom and thank you!

Have a fabulous Saturday everyone!











Posted by on February 17, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Let’s Stay Together!!




Happy Martin Luther King day to each and every one of you, I hope today finds you with a smile on your face and a full heart! It’s Monday and it’s pretty cool that it is a day, in the States at least, when we honor a great American as well as the great struggle that was fought with his leadership! This post will not be about him, but as a black man in America, I am honored when anyone is honored for trying to do some good for the people around them!


Yesterday was a great day. I wasn’t able to go to the gym yet because of weather conditions but I did get my 10k steps in and I’m happy with that. Remember, sometimes it’s just important that we do something to keep consistent! I am really missing the weights but I think I’ll do a little strength training at home today because it looks like we have a little snow coming today and then we should be in the clear. I live right behind our gym so I’m not missing because I can’t get there but rather they have been closed for operations for several days. The resistance bands I got off of Amazon are really great because they truly take away any excuse I could have for not getting some sort of basic workout in.


On the eating front, everything is moving right along! Since I was out of lettuce I simply had a green smoothie and bpc for lunch and for dinner I had some delicious chicken wings! I love chicken as you know but wings are just simple and easy to throw together and bake or fry. Most of the time I don’t even have any sauce on them I can just season to taste and I’m completely satisfied! I was brought some sweet treats that I hardly ever eat and as much as I would like to say I held strong I didn’t. I totally gave in and had a small piece of cake but I simply did a little more cardio to make up for the calories and I didn’t feel guilty or bloated or anything. This lifestyle will require me to be more discipline but every now and again I will be having a guilty pleasure! My body feels great and I can tell that my relationship with food is still headed in the right direction!




Lastly, I would like to talk about something that has been in the news a bit lately.  Recently, I read where a clothing chain put a shirt on a young black kid that referred to him being a monkey and the internet went crazy! It was an advertisement for some sweatshirts or something like that and people started saying that it was a racist ad aimed at calling black people monkeys. As a black man, I would invite all of you to remember that we are more together than divided. The media and others would have you believe that everything has a underlying meaning and that we are not supposed to be together because we are different. Please don’t let this non-sense distract you from the fact that there are too many people out here in this world doing good and getting along of all nationality to be suckered back into some race problem. I’m not suggesting that there aren’t any racial problem in this world. I’m simply saying time and time again we have proven that the overwhelming majority of us love and care about each other no matter what color or creed. We as people have shown that compassion and love transcend all barriers! Please don’t let people get you to believe we are divided and totally different because the truth is we are united. Today in this world there are more people from diverse backgrounds interacting and caring for one another than ever before. We all know how to love and we all need love, so don’t believe them when they try to make you think we are other than what we are! Don’t take the bait! The world has much bigger issues in my opinion! O.k., the soapbox has been exited!



Have a fantastic Monday and remember no matter what, you are worth anything and everything it takes to be happy! See Ya!


Posted by on January 15, 2018 in Uncategorized


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A Child Will lead……


Weight loss is difficult because you have to really be obsessed with losing the weight. I guess I should say fat loss because I don’t wish to lose muscle. The idea of being a better version of yourself requires selfishness and that can be very difficult when you aren’t a naturally selfish person. Don’t get me wrong, I am a very spoiled man. I realize that most of you don’t hear men say that they are spoiled but I certainly am. It’s not too often that I don’t get what I ask for or need. My support system is amazing and the blessing that I have in abundance is very rare these days. However, my first thought is how to help others and to worry about me last. When your trying to get healthier being selfish is so important because you have to perform the tasks in your everyday life that prove to you that you love yourself. Showing self-love is very difficult for me because I want everyone around me to be happy and safe and to be taken care of. Somewhere along the lines, I thought I had to forget about what I need and want for my life in order to play the role of people pleaser. I’ve always wanted the people around me to be not just safe and healthy but happy as well!


In 2017 I did a ton of research on fat loss and dieting and fasting and a load of topics about self-improvement. During this research, I found that there were things I wanted to do with my life that had nothing to do with my family or friends. They were things I wanted to accomplish on my own! Just to prove to myself that I loved the man that I am, the good and the bad. I’m so far from perfect it’s scary and I know that I have hurt people even if I didn’t mean to and that’s just a shame. The reason I hurt those people was that I was fake about who I was and what I wanted. See, no matter how long we try to please others, eventually who we are shines through and we end up being who we truly are anyway. In my case, I had issues with how I felt about myself. It’s crazy because I have always had a great attitude and I’ve never been a negative person but I was just never good at loving myself. Ever! I felt like I was just on the world and not in it.




I say all this because this morning I came downstairs and I found a note from my son apologizing for an argument we had last night and it stopped me dead in my tracks. What we argued about is not important but what is important is that at 15 years old my son was man enough to recognize that he was wrong for his part and he took responsibility for it. He taught me a lesson that smacked me in the face like a cold fish! My life, my journey, my fat loss and my health is my responsibility to me. How I treat myself, no matter what area is my letter to myself about how I feel and I realized after reading his note that I have been apologizing to my inner self about my bad health for most of my life. Not taking responsibility but just apologizing. An apology is nothing if the actions that lead to it don’t change and in that moment I realize that I’ve truly changed. I’ve changed the way I eat and drink but I’ve also changed the way I love and care!




I’m just not the same man I was a year ago. So many things about me are changing and I’m very happy about those. Once we start doing something to change our lives for the better it starts to permeate in the other areas of our lives! Today I take full responsibility for the decisions I make when it comes to me and my body! It’s my fault for anything that I have done to damage or weaken my body, but it’s also my victory when I have taken a positive step in repairing my body and soul. Whenever I purposely do anything for my happiness I am making a decision to love myself and I think my son taught me that this morning. Craziness!


I really hope this helps someone today to understand that it’s o.k to do things just for you and to love who you are. If you don’t like something about yourself, as long as your breathing you have the power to change it. It doesn’t have to be your final chapter, you can change the ending and make it what you want it to be! We can help each other be whatever we want to be! I apologize for the rambling this morning but some lessons take you off

Let’s all enjoy life and the possibilities today brings to smile and be thankful! I love you all! Peace!


Posted by on January 14, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Monday, Monday it’s back again and I want to wish all of you a fantastic kickoff to the week. Today my kids got a snow day basically because it’s super icy out and they didn’t want to take any chances with the buses and stuff. I for one am glad that they didn’t have school because I really don’t want to be out in the bad weather driving myself so I’m even more nervous about someone else driving my kids in bad weather.




Boy did I blow it last week on the workout front, I only got to the gym 2 times and I planned on going at least 4 so I stunk it up. This coming week I’m going to make up for it by working out 6 of the 7 days of this week. Normally I would give myself rest in between but I’ll just break up the type of workouts I do and maybe do some late night swimming like R.E.M. Truth be told, for what I pay for the gym I probably should be doing it every day The cool thing is I spent a lot of time with the family this weekend and we had a ball. It’s been awhile since we have all been home on a weekend together so we watched movies, played Uno and made lots of cool meals together! Now, I should have still hit the gym but I didn’t and while I’m not down on myself about it that doesn’t mean the work doesn’t need to be done.


Not to worry good people I kept it keto, for the most part, this weekend. Actually tried chia seeds for the first time in my life in a smoothie. I would love to tell you they taste great but I didn’t really taste them mixed in with my green monster of a smoothie. I know they are a healthy fat choice so I just threw a couple tablespoons in! On Friday I had a few carbs with a small serving of angel hair spaghetti and ground sausage. Then for dinner, it was a delicious Bulletproof coffee, sunflower seeds and green smoothie mix that got my good fats in me for the day.  Saturday was a real treat because we all had a meal together as a family which doesn’t happen as much as I would like. My oldest son made sugar free crepes and they were amazing. Of course, the ones they had were full of sugar but I kept it sugar-free with the exception of sampling a bite of the Carmel filled one and it was Yesterday I made myself a fathead pizza with extra cheese and ground sausage and it was yummy and so filling that all I could muster for dinner was a green smoothie with those chia seeds I mentioned earlier. I felt very good about my eating this weekend and I didn’t feel bloated or overfeed at all. No binging took place and I stayed away from candy and added sugar!



Folks if you get a chance look up Aquaponics! I may just be slow to the party but I stumbled upon this system of growing veggies and I was blown away! It’s crazy how fast and plentiful the greens grow plus they conserve so very much. There’s hardly any mal-effect on the environment and truth be told I’m going to start using the system as soon as my seedlings germinate! I’m so excited and trust me when I tell you I never ever thought I would say that about gardening. I must be getting super old but I’m mesmerized by the idea that I can help grow something that I can consume! So if you get a moment just google it and tell me what you think about this system. Have a fantastic Monday and I’ll be back tomorrow to talk about the workout that had better have been accomplished.!


Posted by on January 8, 2018 in Uncategorized


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King Meat




Well, there is good news and better news. The good news is I listened to my body and how sore my biceps felt and decided not to lift last night. The better news is I still managed to get my 10k steps in, so at the very least I have done something to burn calories and feel better! I’m telling you my arms were just not trying to do the simplest of task yesterday so I had to shut it down. It’s easy to forget I just got into the damn gym and I need to give my body time to adjust. The problem sometimes with a gym fee is you feel like if your paying for it you need to get the most out of it and you can sometimes overdo it. This morning my arms feel grateful that I let them rest and I’ll be at full strength to get my 4th workout in on Sunday, which I believe is New Year’s Eve! Happy New year everyone!




Interesting how things are rolling right along on the eating front! Yesterday I had a fantastic mix of Chinese cabbage and Romain lettuce accompanied by my homemade low sugar french dressing! I can’t really say it’s my recipe because I looked it up on youtube but I can say that homemade salad dressing is super easy and absolutely better than the store-bought version! Anyway, I chopped up a few delicious green onions in my salad bowl with my cup of delicious pork rinds and added some chicken to it! Let me just say not only was it delicious but it kept a big man like me full for awhile. So full in fact, that I was able to not eat any meat at all for my second meal of the day and that’s huge for me because as you know meat is King in my kitchen. The second meal was simply Bulletproof coffee, sunflower seeds and some sugar-free pudding that totally satisfied my taste buds. The best thing is my carbs were below 50g so that’s the win-win for me!


My fiance’ and I have been kicking around the idea of creating a cookbook of our favorite recipes, low carb of love the idea of us doing something together that would help others as well as allow me to stay on track with my healthy lifestyle. The more I think about it the more I’m wondering if I need to make different versions of the same recipe to fit multiple lifestyles. I would love some feedback from you guys if you have any ideas that may help. I don’t think we are interested in selling the recipes but just putting some together as a resource we could use as we go along. Please let me know if you have any thoughts on the matter because I am by no means a cooking expert and certainly not the most knowledgeable in terms of fresh ingredients but I’m very willing to learn.

I’ll wrap up by saying that I have found great strength and inspiration from my blogging community and I am so very thankful. I have been working on a Facebook community for followers of a low carb/Keto diet Alexx’s Keto Avenue and if you’re interested please feel free to join! Have a fantastic day and thank you so very much for reading!


Posted by on December 30, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Just finished with the gym and I feel magnificent! There are so many advantages to getting to the gym in the middle of the night. It’s so relaxed and peaceful and you can really concentrate on your purpose instead of talking to people and get off task. Don’t get me wrong I’m certainly a people person but when I’m working out I would prefer to get lost in my hip-hop favorites like Jay-z and T.I. just to name a couple. When it’s time for cardio I can select my cardio music like Journey or Pearl Jam and just get lost in my own mind! Anyway, I did about 20 minutes of cardio on my seated elliptical and it was enjoyable.


For strength training, I did back and biceps today. These two areas really are my weakest so I tried to really do a variety of exercises to maximise the burn. My plan is to slowly but surely get to 5 days a week in the gym!  Or I should say 5 days of exercise because I may not always get the chance to get to the facilities depending on what’s going on in my personal life. The goal is simply to do something, anything every day that will get my heart rate up a little and allow me to burn a few calories! Simple enough right?


So I have finally gotten my whole eating situation down. As you know I have been doing a lot of research and experimenting with my calorie intake as well as my intermittent fasting schedule. My fiance’ drives me crazy because I can do all this studying and reading, look at tons of data and watch seminars on nutrition and she just comes in and solves the problem in like 5 minutes. She always tells me that you can’t teach common sense and I always disagree with her on that and that’s why it hurts me to my core to admit that she is right. I’m overthinking this whole thing and the truth is I should listen to my body and do what it is telling me. If I’m working out and I need more calories then I should eat a little more, If I’m not very hungry then I should do a prolonged fast on those days. Since I have already decided on the types of foods I will be eating on my Keto lifestyle I should just relax and let my body take the wheel. As you may understand I do hate her very much! She always has a way of making my life so much easier and then flashing that cute little smile at me. I know she knows that her kindness is killing me and she knows I know it! Jerk! So you can understand how admitting that she is right is one of the most disgusting things I ever have to do but I have to give it to her, she may be on to something with the whole thing. That’s o.k I take great pleasure in knowing that one day soon I’ll stop off at her favorite place to eat and grab a delicious meal just for myself and when she asks me why I didn’t get her anything I’ll simply say “My body told me you wouldn’t want any. Ha Ha ha!




She is such a blessing and I couldn’t do any of this without her support. My whole family has totally been supportive and proud of me during this entire process. I make light of how she goes about making me better but I understand that’s she’s making me better and that’s so humbling!

Find something today that makes you smile and hold on to that thought all day long! I appreciate you for reading as always and have a super day!


Posted by on December 27, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Livin’ is Work





You have to focus on the problem when you can’t use food for your fall back. That’s what I’m learning on a daily bases. some people do an array of things to deal with issues in their lives. Some hit the gym and sweat it out, other’s immerse themselves in their work. For, myself it’s food as usual. My whole life it’s been my safety net, my insurance, the one place I could turn to and things would work out the way I wanted them too. They may have been unhealthy but those unhealthy foods at 3 in the morning never let me down or disappointed me. They were like a child’s imaginary friend, always there when I needed them and always provided comfort. This past year I have taken a major step forward in fighting my dependancy on unhealthy foods and snacks. I’ve come such a long way and I couldn’t be more proud of myself for it.


The issue now for me is how to deal with the issues that food help me I mean logically these issues have to be dealt with but when you have spent your entire life uses a certain shield it’s difficult to walk around naked. It’s sort of like getting punched for years with boxer gloves and then having those gloves taken off and taking the same shots. Those shots have the added effect of slicing your reality up with the awareness that people around you have been adversely affected by your actions. Time is the one thing you can’t get back in life and while you’re trying to get your life going in the right direction , there are people in your life who love you and have to deal with your issue having behind!

Today is my oldest sons birthday! I’m very lucky to have such healthy and wonderful kids. However, I realize that I could have been a better father than I was while they were growing up. There are things I could have done better. One of those is I could have been healthier physically so that I could have participated in more activities than I did. We did a ton of things as a family, however, there are things we just didn’t do and they were because I physically couldn’t. I truly regret that. At this point in my life not only am I getting control of my eating and how I treat my body, I am also learning how to mend the wounds of all the damage I may have caused by dodging these major issues in my life for so long.

Growth is a major pain in the ass but it’s very important. We can’t allow our shortcomings to lay there and never try to do anything to address them. Others are affected by the things we are dealing with and how we are dealing with them. The past year has taught me that while I can’t go back I can make choices right now that will affect the future more positively. It’s funny how doing keto has really turned my life around. Not the diet itself but how it’s forced me to open my eyes to all the other things I have neglected because I was so busy eating my struggles away.

We all have the amazing power to change. I think that’s what makes the human race so damn amazing! That with all of our faults we can take all of them and knock them off one by one. We may not be perfect, but the pursuit of perfection is in our powers!

Whatever your dealing with I hope you find the strength that you never knew you had to conquer your demons. I pray you gain the power to mend the fences that may be broken in your life! I wish you well!

Please like and comment. Your energy and point of view are always welcome.


Posted by on December 11, 2017 in Uncategorized


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