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Let’s Stay Together!!




Happy Martin Luther King day to each and every one of you, I hope today finds you with a smile on your face and a full heart! It’s Monday and it’s pretty cool that it is a day, in the States at least, when we honor a great American as well as the great struggle that was fought with his leadership! This post will not be about him, but as a black man in America, I am honored when anyone is honored for trying to do some good for the people around them!


Yesterday was a great day. I wasn’t able to go to the gym yet because of weather conditions but I did get my 10k steps in and I’m happy with that. Remember, sometimes it’s just important that we do something to keep consistent! I am really missing the weights but I think I’ll do a little strength training at home today because it looks like we have a little snow coming today and then we should be in the clear. I live right behind our gym so I’m not missing because I can’t get there but rather they have been closed for operations for several days. The resistance bands I got off of Amazon are really great because they truly take away any excuse I could have for not getting some sort of basic workout in.


On the eating front, everything is moving right along! Since I was out of lettuce I simply had a green smoothie and bpc for lunch and for dinner I had some delicious chicken wings! I love chicken as you know but wings are just simple and easy to throw together and bake or fry. Most of the time I don’t even have any sauce on them I can just season to taste and I’m completely satisfied! I was brought some sweet treats that I hardly ever eat and as much as I would like to say I held strong I didn’t. I totally gave in and had a small piece of cake but I simply did a little more cardio to make up for the calories and I didn’t feel guilty or bloated or anything. This lifestyle will require me to be more discipline but every now and again I will be having a guilty pleasure! My body feels great and I can tell that my relationship with food is still headed in the right direction!




Lastly, I would like to talk about something that has been in the news a bit lately.  Recently, I read where a clothing chain put a shirt on a young black kid that referred to him being a monkey and the internet went crazy! It was an advertisement for some sweatshirts or something like that and people started saying that it was a racist ad aimed at calling black people monkeys. As a black man, I would invite all of you to remember that we are more together than divided. The media and others would have you believe that everything has a underlying meaning and that we are not supposed to be together because we are different. Please don’t let this non-sense distract you from the fact that there are too many people out here in this world doing good and getting along of all nationality to be suckered back into some race problem. I’m not suggesting that there aren’t any racial problem in this world. I’m simply saying time and time again we have proven that the overwhelming majority of us love and care about each other no matter what color or creed. We as people have shown that compassion and love transcend all barriers! Please don’t let people get you to believe we are divided and totally different because the truth is we are united. Today in this world there are more people from diverse backgrounds interacting and caring for one another than ever before. We all know how to love and we all need love, so don’t believe them when they try to make you think we are other than what we are! Don’t take the bait! The world has much bigger issues in my opinion! O.k., the soapbox has been exited!



Have a fantastic Monday and remember no matter what, you are worth anything and everything it takes to be happy! See Ya!


Posted by on January 15, 2018 in Uncategorized


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A Child Will lead……


Weight loss is difficult because you have to really be obsessed with losing the weight. I guess I should say fat loss because I don’t wish to lose muscle. The idea of being a better version of yourself requires selfishness and that can be very difficult when you aren’t a naturally selfish person. Don’t get me wrong, I am a very spoiled man. I realize that most of you don’t hear men say that they are spoiled but I certainly am. It’s not too often that I don’t get what I ask for or need. My support system is amazing and the blessing that I have in abundance is very rare these days. However, my first thought is how to help others and to worry about me last. When your trying to get healthier being selfish is so important because you have to perform the tasks in your everyday life that prove to you that you love yourself. Showing self-love is very difficult for me because I want everyone around me to be happy and safe and to be taken care of. Somewhere along the lines, I thought I had to forget about what I need and want for my life in order to play the role of people pleaser. I’ve always wanted the people around me to be not just safe and healthy but happy as well!


In 2017 I did a ton of research on fat loss and dieting and fasting and a load of topics about self-improvement. During this research, I found that there were things I wanted to do with my life that had nothing to do with my family or friends. They were things I wanted to accomplish on my own! Just to prove to myself that I loved the man that I am, the good and the bad. I’m so far from perfect it’s scary and I know that I have hurt people even if I didn’t mean to and that’s just a shame. The reason I hurt those people was that I was fake about who I was and what I wanted. See, no matter how long we try to please others, eventually who we are shines through and we end up being who we truly are anyway. In my case, I had issues with how I felt about myself. It’s crazy because I have always had a great attitude and I’ve never been a negative person but I was just never good at loving myself. Ever! I felt like I was just on the world and not in it.




I say all this because this morning I came downstairs and I found a note from my son apologizing for an argument we had last night and it stopped me dead in my tracks. What we argued about is not important but what is important is that at 15 years old my son was man enough to recognize that he was wrong for his part and he took responsibility for it. He taught me a lesson that smacked me in the face like a cold fish! My life, my journey, my fat loss and my health is my responsibility to me. How I treat myself, no matter what area is my letter to myself about how I feel and I realized after reading his note that I have been apologizing to my inner self about my bad health for most of my life. Not taking responsibility but just apologizing. An apology is nothing if the actions that lead to it don’t change and in that moment I realize that I’ve truly changed. I’ve changed the way I eat and drink but I’ve also changed the way I love and care!




I’m just not the same man I was a year ago. So many things about me are changing and I’m very happy about those. Once we start doing something to change our lives for the better it starts to permeate in the other areas of our lives! Today I take full responsibility for the decisions I make when it comes to me and my body! It’s my fault for anything that I have done to damage or weaken my body, but it’s also my victory when I have taken a positive step in repairing my body and soul. Whenever I purposely do anything for my happiness I am making a decision to love myself and I think my son taught me that this morning. Craziness!


I really hope this helps someone today to understand that it’s o.k to do things just for you and to love who you are. If you don’t like something about yourself, as long as your breathing you have the power to change it. It doesn’t have to be your final chapter, you can change the ending and make it what you want it to be! We can help each other be whatever we want to be! I apologize for the rambling this morning but some lessons take you off

Let’s all enjoy life and the possibilities today brings to smile and be thankful! I love you all! Peace!


Posted by on January 14, 2018 in Uncategorized


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Monday, Monday it’s back again and I want to wish all of you a fantastic kickoff to the week. Today my kids got a snow day basically because it’s super icy out and they didn’t want to take any chances with the buses and stuff. I for one am glad that they didn’t have school because I really don’t want to be out in the bad weather driving myself so I’m even more nervous about someone else driving my kids in bad weather.




Boy did I blow it last week on the workout front, I only got to the gym 2 times and I planned on going at least 4 so I stunk it up. This coming week I’m going to make up for it by working out 6 of the 7 days of this week. Normally I would give myself rest in between but I’ll just break up the type of workouts I do and maybe do some late night swimming like R.E.M. Truth be told, for what I pay for the gym I probably should be doing it every day The cool thing is I spent a lot of time with the family this weekend and we had a ball. It’s been awhile since we have all been home on a weekend together so we watched movies, played Uno and made lots of cool meals together! Now, I should have still hit the gym but I didn’t and while I’m not down on myself about it that doesn’t mean the work doesn’t need to be done.


Not to worry good people I kept it keto, for the most part, this weekend. Actually tried chia seeds for the first time in my life in a smoothie. I would love to tell you they taste great but I didn’t really taste them mixed in with my green monster of a smoothie. I know they are a healthy fat choice so I just threw a couple tablespoons in! On Friday I had a few carbs with a small serving of angel hair spaghetti and ground sausage. Then for dinner, it was a delicious Bulletproof coffee, sunflower seeds and green smoothie mix that got my good fats in me for the day.  Saturday was a real treat because we all had a meal together as a family which doesn’t happen as much as I would like. My oldest son made sugar free crepes and they were amazing. Of course, the ones they had were full of sugar but I kept it sugar-free with the exception of sampling a bite of the Carmel filled one and it was Yesterday I made myself a fathead pizza with extra cheese and ground sausage and it was yummy and so filling that all I could muster for dinner was a green smoothie with those chia seeds I mentioned earlier. I felt very good about my eating this weekend and I didn’t feel bloated or overfeed at all. No binging took place and I stayed away from candy and added sugar!



Folks if you get a chance look up Aquaponics! I may just be slow to the party but I stumbled upon this system of growing veggies and I was blown away! It’s crazy how fast and plentiful the greens grow plus they conserve so very much. There’s hardly any mal-effect on the environment and truth be told I’m going to start using the system as soon as my seedlings germinate! I’m so excited and trust me when I tell you I never ever thought I would say that about gardening. I must be getting super old but I’m mesmerized by the idea that I can help grow something that I can consume! So if you get a moment just google it and tell me what you think about this system. Have a fantastic Monday and I’ll be back tomorrow to talk about the workout that had better have been accomplished.!


Posted by on January 8, 2018 in Uncategorized


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King Meat




Well, there is good news and better news. The good news is I listened to my body and how sore my biceps felt and decided not to lift last night. The better news is I still managed to get my 10k steps in, so at the very least I have done something to burn calories and feel better! I’m telling you my arms were just not trying to do the simplest of task yesterday so I had to shut it down. It’s easy to forget I just got into the damn gym and I need to give my body time to adjust. The problem sometimes with a gym fee is you feel like if your paying for it you need to get the most out of it and you can sometimes overdo it. This morning my arms feel grateful that I let them rest and I’ll be at full strength to get my 4th workout in on Sunday, which I believe is New Year’s Eve! Happy New year everyone!




Interesting how things are rolling right along on the eating front! Yesterday I had a fantastic mix of Chinese cabbage and Romain lettuce accompanied by my homemade low sugar french dressing! I can’t really say it’s my recipe because I looked it up on youtube but I can say that homemade salad dressing is super easy and absolutely better than the store-bought version! Anyway, I chopped up a few delicious green onions in my salad bowl with my cup of delicious pork rinds and added some chicken to it! Let me just say not only was it delicious but it kept a big man like me full for awhile. So full in fact, that I was able to not eat any meat at all for my second meal of the day and that’s huge for me because as you know meat is King in my kitchen. The second meal was simply Bulletproof coffee, sunflower seeds and some sugar-free pudding that totally satisfied my taste buds. The best thing is my carbs were below 50g so that’s the win-win for me!


My fiance’ and I have been kicking around the idea of creating a cookbook of our favorite recipes, low carb of love the idea of us doing something together that would help others as well as allow me to stay on track with my healthy lifestyle. The more I think about it the more I’m wondering if I need to make different versions of the same recipe to fit multiple lifestyles. I would love some feedback from you guys if you have any ideas that may help. I don’t think we are interested in selling the recipes but just putting some together as a resource we could use as we go along. Please let me know if you have any thoughts on the matter because I am by no means a cooking expert and certainly not the most knowledgeable in terms of fresh ingredients but I’m very willing to learn.

I’ll wrap up by saying that I have found great strength and inspiration from my blogging community and I am so very thankful. I have been working on a Facebook community for followers of a low carb/Keto diet Alexx’s Keto Avenue and if you’re interested please feel free to join! Have a fantastic day and thank you so very much for reading!


Posted by on December 30, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Just finished with the gym and I feel magnificent! There are so many advantages to getting to the gym in the middle of the night. It’s so relaxed and peaceful and you can really concentrate on your purpose instead of talking to people and get off task. Don’t get me wrong I’m certainly a people person but when I’m working out I would prefer to get lost in my hip-hop favorites like Jay-z and T.I. just to name a couple. When it’s time for cardio I can select my cardio music like Journey or Pearl Jam and just get lost in my own mind! Anyway, I did about 20 minutes of cardio on my seated elliptical and it was enjoyable.


For strength training, I did back and biceps today. These two areas really are my weakest so I tried to really do a variety of exercises to maximise the burn. My plan is to slowly but surely get to 5 days a week in the gym!  Or I should say 5 days of exercise because I may not always get the chance to get to the facilities depending on what’s going on in my personal life. The goal is simply to do something, anything every day that will get my heart rate up a little and allow me to burn a few calories! Simple enough right?


So I have finally gotten my whole eating situation down. As you know I have been doing a lot of research and experimenting with my calorie intake as well as my intermittent fasting schedule. My fiance’ drives me crazy because I can do all this studying and reading, look at tons of data and watch seminars on nutrition and she just comes in and solves the problem in like 5 minutes. She always tells me that you can’t teach common sense and I always disagree with her on that and that’s why it hurts me to my core to admit that she is right. I’m overthinking this whole thing and the truth is I should listen to my body and do what it is telling me. If I’m working out and I need more calories then I should eat a little more, If I’m not very hungry then I should do a prolonged fast on those days. Since I have already decided on the types of foods I will be eating on my Keto lifestyle I should just relax and let my body take the wheel. As you may understand I do hate her very much! She always has a way of making my life so much easier and then flashing that cute little smile at me. I know she knows that her kindness is killing me and she knows I know it! Jerk! So you can understand how admitting that she is right is one of the most disgusting things I ever have to do but I have to give it to her, she may be on to something with the whole thing. That’s o.k I take great pleasure in knowing that one day soon I’ll stop off at her favorite place to eat and grab a delicious meal just for myself and when she asks me why I didn’t get her anything I’ll simply say “My body told me you wouldn’t want any. Ha Ha ha!




She is such a blessing and I couldn’t do any of this without her support. My whole family has totally been supportive and proud of me during this entire process. I make light of how she goes about making me better but I understand that’s she’s making me better and that’s so humbling!

Find something today that makes you smile and hold on to that thought all day long! I appreciate you for reading as always and have a super day!


Posted by on December 27, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Livin’ is Work





You have to focus on the problem when you can’t use food for your fall back. That’s what I’m learning on a daily bases. some people do an array of things to deal with issues in their lives. Some hit the gym and sweat it out, other’s immerse themselves in their work. For, myself it’s food as usual. My whole life it’s been my safety net, my insurance, the one place I could turn to and things would work out the way I wanted them too. They may have been unhealthy but those unhealthy foods at 3 in the morning never let me down or disappointed me. They were like a child’s imaginary friend, always there when I needed them and always provided comfort. This past year I have taken a major step forward in fighting my dependancy on unhealthy foods and snacks. I’ve come such a long way and I couldn’t be more proud of myself for it.


The issue now for me is how to deal with the issues that food help me I mean logically these issues have to be dealt with but when you have spent your entire life uses a certain shield it’s difficult to walk around naked. It’s sort of like getting punched for years with boxer gloves and then having those gloves taken off and taking the same shots. Those shots have the added effect of slicing your reality up with the awareness that people around you have been adversely affected by your actions. Time is the one thing you can’t get back in life and while you’re trying to get your life going in the right direction , there are people in your life who love you and have to deal with your issue having behind!

Today is my oldest sons birthday! I’m very lucky to have such healthy and wonderful kids. However, I realize that I could have been a better father than I was while they were growing up. There are things I could have done better. One of those is I could have been healthier physically so that I could have participated in more activities than I did. We did a ton of things as a family, however, there are things we just didn’t do and they were because I physically couldn’t. I truly regret that. At this point in my life not only am I getting control of my eating and how I treat my body, I am also learning how to mend the wounds of all the damage I may have caused by dodging these major issues in my life for so long.

Growth is a major pain in the ass but it’s very important. We can’t allow our shortcomings to lay there and never try to do anything to address them. Others are affected by the things we are dealing with and how we are dealing with them. The past year has taught me that while I can’t go back I can make choices right now that will affect the future more positively. It’s funny how doing keto has really turned my life around. Not the diet itself but how it’s forced me to open my eyes to all the other things I have neglected because I was so busy eating my struggles away.

We all have the amazing power to change. I think that’s what makes the human race so damn amazing! That with all of our faults we can take all of them and knock them off one by one. We may not be perfect, but the pursuit of perfection is in our powers!

Whatever your dealing with I hope you find the strength that you never knew you had to conquer your demons. I pray you gain the power to mend the fences that may be broken in your life! I wish you well!

Please like and comment. Your energy and point of view are always welcome.


Posted by on December 11, 2017 in Uncategorized


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Like I posted yesterday I been thinking about joining a gym.  So Thursday morning after I did some writing and shopping I visited my neighborhood gym. I have to admit I was very impressed with the layout of the facilities! Not only do they have indoor and outdoor swimming pools but they have very up to date cardio equipment, above average free weights as well as water Aerobics! I will say I wasn’t surprised by the cost. They charge a lot of money for the use of their club. We’re talking a down payment of at least the value of my youngest child! I’m kidding of course but you get my point.

I’m aware that you can’t put a price on your health and well being but the administration at this club can! You may get in great physical shape only to have a Cardiac event when you pay your membership each month! So I had it in my head that we couldn’t afford to join until I saw the Jacuzzi!

The thought of lounging in those wonderful jet-propelled bubbles after a hard workout had me seriously leaning towards a membership.  Hell, damn a workout I could just use the Jacuzzi every other day; workout optional, ya heard me? Lol.

So I decided that since I am the man of the house, the strong alpha dog that talks and sh*t happens, I did the only thing a real kingfish would do. I asked my girl if it was o.k to join and she is going to get back to me later!

NOT to worry my friends I am happy to report that no matter what we(I mean she) decides) I will be sticking to some form of cardio and strength training workout! These goals aren’t going to accomplish themselves!
MY adventures in Keto eating have been very successful. I was under my calories today and managed to even have a sweet and delicious treat. The fast breaker today was pork chops with a side of almond string beans! I’ve posted this before but please guys do yourself a favor, go get some of these frozen steamer veggies! They are so freaking delicious and easy! You just pop them in the microwave and 7 mins later you have hassle-free healthy sides to go with your protein and fats! They are like a dollar a piece at my neighborhood Kroger and they are a lazy cooks dream! Go get ’em I’m telling you they are game changers for sure.




And then there were the pork chops for lunch OMG!!!




Now I told you I made a sweet little snack that would help with my ever-present sweet tooth and here we go! I included the recipe. Take my word for it if you’re on the go and you need a quick fix, just stash these puppies in little ziplock bags! I put them in the little compartment between the front seat of my truck. They are amazing!  Slow Cooked Candied Pecans!





  • 1 c. Stevia or Truvia
  • 1 tbsp. cinnamon
  • 1 tsp. cloves
  • 1 tsp. kosher salt
  • 2 egg whites
  • 1 tsp. vanilla
  • Cooking spray, for slow-cooker
  • 6 c. pecans


  1. In a medium bowl, whisk together sugars, cinnamon, cloves, and salt. Set aside.
  2. In another medium bowl, combine egg whites and vanilla. Whisk until frothy.
  3. Spray slow-cooker with non-stick cooking spray. Add pecans to the Crock-Pot. Pour egg white mixture over pecans and stir until coated. Pour sugar mixture over and stir again until pecans are fully coated.
  4. Cook on low for 3 hours, stirring every half hour. If sugar isn’t dissolving, add water 1 tablespoon at a time. When finished, remove nuts from slow-cooker and cool in a single layer. Serve.


As usual, you are encouraged to like and share! You are very appreciated and your voice is most welcome here! Have a Peaceful and Comfortable Friday ya’ll!


Posted by on December 8, 2017 in Uncategorized


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How you feel about you, homie?!




So yesterday went fantastic for me. I was able to get back on track with my eating and surprisingly I even cooked dinner for the family!  I don’t get a chance to really cook for the family as much as I would like because they don’t follow the same diet. While I was preparing their food a wonderful feeling came over me! I’m an Addict as I’ve said in previous posts and the fact that I could prepare food that I wouldn’t be eating is a pretty great accomplishment! O.k this may seem small to some of you but I want you to try seeing this the way I do.


Imagine an Alcoholic making his own liquor without taking a sip of it! That takes some amazing willpower! I made a lot of food last night and I was able to serve it to the family and then get right back to what I was doing. For those of you who don’t know, I have an amazing Fiance’ and she gives me so much support! Anytime I can do anything to make her day a little bit better I’m all in! I made an amazing baked Salmon; if I do say so myself. Ha Ha!


The entire reason I’m writing about this is that we have to recognize when we do well and get it right. We are always willing to recognize when we screw up and fall short and that’s important. I believe however it’s even more important to stand up and be proud of the little things we are accomplishing on daily bases. In your heart you know there are things you are doing that you thought you couldn’t. We must be our biggest and most loyal supporter. After all, no one knows how difficult your wins are to achieve than you! So don’t take it lightly when you go a different direction than you usually do in the name of progress! When you do it right you should be as high as a kite on yourself for doing it right! Send yourself a  congratulatory card in the mail regarding an accomplishment you have met. Walk around the house in your favorite pair of underwear and feel good about yourself! We need to learn to be as happy for ourselves as we are critical of ourselves. Remember all of these choices are, For you, By you, so if you don’t enjoy the climb you will never appreciate the view. That’s real!


How did you kick ass today? I don’t care how small it may seem I’d love to hear about it!



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Posted by on December 5, 2017 in Uncategorized


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